Lean in & Lay it Down

I like answers. I like understanding. I’m stubborn and I’m not good with asking for what I need. Some would say that I’m controlling (who me?). 🤔 YET, I’m pretty good at putting expectations on others that they are unaware of OR not capable of fulfilling. THEN, feeling disappointed, holding on to resentment and in anger screeching “never mind, I’ll take care of it myself.” 

My morning prayer time revealed that God was waiting with open arms to carry my load if I can release it to Him…I thought, how & what do I need to lay at His feet? So, I drank my ketones, laced up my sneakers and set out for a run 🏃🏻‍♀️…I can always count on those ketones, nature, running and prayer for clarity. I mean…what the heck do I need to lay down, Lord? 

Oh, boy…did I have some shit to lay down this morning. 

I looked around, I appreciated the cooler temperatures, the fall foliage, my legs to carry me…& then it hit me. Appreciate it all, because so much can change in a year. 👀 RIGHT? It seems like 2018 has been defined by pre stroke and post stroke. Our life, our plans for the future shock to the core & now we live in a space of unanswered questions. I can’t fix Jaye or make it better. He’s struggling, I’m struggling and our life is DIFFERENT. I’ve attempted to carry the load and weight myself. I’m hanging on by a strand and STILL holding on to what was…not really accepting that it’s ALL different now.  I’m hurt, I feel helpless & in all honesty, I’m resentful. I’m scared of what our future looks like. 

In admitting these feelings…I gained clarity on what it was that I needed to surrender. I realized that in order to live out God’s plans for us #better …I needed to release the past, the expectations, the roles that defined us, the hurt, the way we used to express love…OUR needs are different. What was is no longer. In order to move forward I need to surrender, lean in, trust without understanding…give our burdens to God rather than trying to carry it by myself.

I may not know how to solve our problems, but I do know that I can lean on the One Who does know. Sisters, look around…be grateful for everything. Let go of whatever it is that is taking up space, let it go to make room for God to do His thing. 

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. ~ Proverbs 3:5-6

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JOY in Trials 🎶

“In Moments Like These.” 🎶

Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. ~ James 1:2-4 (NIV)

We all experience trials and every trial can be redeemed by God for good. We may not be able to control our circumstances, but we can control how we think about our circumstances. When bad things happen, we can say, “This is terrible. This is a bad day. My life is going wrong. Why is this happening to me?” OR we can say to ourselves, “This is a bad thing, but I will get through it. I will learn and be stronger. I will grow and rejoice, even while it hurts.”
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Gosh, this command is hard. Why does it have to be this way? Well, sister…because trials produce endurance. They’re like exercises for developing muscles and strength in personal spiritual growth. Trials: test and confirm our faith. They grow our trust in God and create endurance. Trials make us bitter OR better. They reveal what we truly value.
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To joyfully let God shape our mind, feelings, habits, desires, and body while in trial is how we allow endurance to complete a work in us.
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The way we mature spiritually is by knowing there is a purpose in the trial, enduring it with joy, and preparing for the next trial to come with more joy & clearer perspective.
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In the midst of pain, trial, grief, and discomfort, Lord – help me to remember to sing! “Blessed be Your Name.” 🎶D95523D6-1531-48B8-996C-ACE5F3C5C73E

Smile! 😁

Wearing my best smile today in honor of ‘NATIONAL SMILE DAY!’ 😁 What make you smile?

I smile when something is funny or if something that I’m doing brings me joy. I smile at puppies and babies. I smile when my children laugh. I rock a mighty grin when I think of those that I love and beam the light of joy ✨ when spending time in the company of delightful people.

Smiles are powerful! They not only create engagement between two people but the more a person smiles, the healthier their brain can be. It is a direct link to our brain and can help to reduce stress.

Just one smile can brighten someone’s day and improve yours. Smiles are infectious. A smile can develop confidence and generate a new outlook on the world. A smile is the universal language of kindness.

Smile because life really isn’t that serious. You’re beautiful and amazing. Smile because you’re unique and you can. Smile because tomorrow is a new day and someone loves you. Because you deserve to…SMILE.

Every time you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing. ~ MOTHER TERESA

Give it a try, share a smile – today. 😃 ~ Monette

The RED dress! 💋

RED. I rarely wear it, I didn’t realize that until I needed to wear it for a special event and I had NOTHING that color in my closet. I had to buy something just for the occasion. I slipped into that dress this morning and immediately grew self conscious and uncomfortable. So uncomfortable that I considered wearing something more comfortable (preferably grey or black) for my first two appointments and changing for the ‘Go Red Luncheon.’ I’ve never really given it much thought, but this morning as I stepped out, begrudgingly – to put gasoline in my car…’it’ fanned me with a brick! The reason why…

RED – a dynamic & passionate color that symbolizes love, passion, rage, and courage. It demands attention and evokes great emotional impact. It is considered a color of power.

As an introvert, I SOooo prefer blending into my surroundings, but today – after I realized “why” I was feeling so uncomfortable…I made a conscious decision to own that power. I faked it till I made it, HA! I wore that RED dress with confidence and strength. Sista, there was something pretty AMAZING about being a part of a sea of other beautiful, strong, and courageous women wearing RED. There is POWER in RED.

And to the sweet Manager at McDonald’s in Kinder that complimented me on how stunning I was in that dress…I simply said “thank you” without minimizing her kind words. #growth

Is there a color that evokes deep emotions for you? Think about it…

Friends, I challenge you! ❤️ Wear RED! OWN “it” sista! Be bold – be courageous; step out and be the woman that God created you to be. #livepurposefully

~ xo

Monette

Joy – no matter what.

32ED3921-5DA9-4E3E-9894-FDFDEF20A4E1Tuesday morning.  I hit snooze and when the second alarm rang…I rolled over and immediately felt the aches and pains from yesterday’s workout…uggg AND what I choose to do next, set the tone for my entire morning.  I gave power to my natural cynical feelings of dread instead of my choice to live spirit led.  I was snappy with Jaye, frustrated with Joel and then, they were out the door…off to work and school.  I wasn’t feeling good…my body was aching and I was feeling gloomy.  I didn’t like it and I was feeling guilty for not being very loving this morning. Years ago…this is how I lived every day.  Reactively allowing my days to be controlled by my feelings from whatever the world through my way.  But, I’m not that woman anymore and God was stirring in my heart a recognition of that in me this morning.  JOY…it’s a choice and a practice, sista and it doesn’t come easily to me.  Some days, I recognize those old patterns rising up without much reflection and other days…they sneak up on me and before I know it and the day is gone…leaving me feeling full of regret.  This morning, it wasn’t clear to me until I did ONE thing that changed my entire morning.  I took a walk.  One healthy choice to unplug, go out into nature, get quiet and allow God to speak to me.  In the awakening of the morning, I was overwhelmed by the sounds and sites – unspeakable and undeniable clarity that overcame me and brought me back to a place of joy and gratitude.  JOY – no matter what.

It’s never too late to start your day over…not feeling good?  Is God stirring something inside of you that you’re just not sure about?  Choose one healthy thing…breathe, get quiet, pray, do something GOOD for yourself – open your heart and your ears…allow God to do what He does best.  Start OVER.

Thank you Lord for meeting me exactly where I am today and always.  For never giving up on me and for your complete love and faithfulness.  I love You and I need You.  Allow my story to give Glory and Honor to You, Lord.

And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless for the day of Christ. ~ Philippians 1:9-10 (NIV)

Savor the Holiday Season

Do the holidays stress you out? Do you OVER indulge and regret it? Not this year, my friend. I have a solution. You are invited to JOIN me and a special group of awesome women as we “Savor the Season!” Actually enjoy the holiday season this year. Thrive, don’t just survive. JOIN us as we use fitness, nutrition, personal development, & support to help us slow down and find JOY this holiday season.

Comment below or shoot me an email @ monetteunraveled@gmail.com for all the details.

We start prepping next Monday 11/20; officially starting Monday 11/27.