Lean in & Lay it Down

I like answers. I like understanding. I’m stubborn and I’m not good with asking for what I need. Some would say that I’m controlling (who me?). 🤔 YET, I’m pretty good at putting expectations on others that they are unaware of OR not capable of fulfilling. THEN, feeling disappointed, holding on to resentment and in anger screeching “never mind, I’ll take care of it myself.” 

My morning prayer time revealed that God was waiting with open arms to carry my load if I can release it to Him…I thought, how & what do I need to lay at His feet? So, I drank my ketones, laced up my sneakers and set out for a run 🏃🏻‍♀️…I can always count on those ketones, nature, running and prayer for clarity. I mean…what the heck do I need to lay down, Lord? 

Oh, boy…did I have some shit to lay down this morning. 

I looked around, I appreciated the cooler temperatures, the fall foliage, my legs to carry me…& then it hit me. Appreciate it all, because so much can change in a year. 👀 RIGHT? It seems like 2018 has been defined by pre stroke and post stroke. Our life, our plans for the future shock to the core & now we live in a space of unanswered questions. I can’t fix Jaye or make it better. He’s struggling, I’m struggling and our life is DIFFERENT. I’ve attempted to carry the load and weight myself. I’m hanging on by a strand and STILL holding on to what was…not really accepting that it’s ALL different now.  I’m hurt, I feel helpless & in all honesty, I’m resentful. I’m scared of what our future looks like. 

In admitting these feelings…I gained clarity on what it was that I needed to surrender. I realized that in order to live out God’s plans for us #better …I needed to release the past, the expectations, the roles that defined us, the hurt, the way we used to express love…OUR needs are different. What was is no longer. In order to move forward I need to surrender, lean in, trust without understanding…give our burdens to God rather than trying to carry it by myself.

I may not know how to solve our problems, but I do know that I can lean on the One Who does know. Sisters, look around…be grateful for everything. Let go of whatever it is that is taking up space, let it go to make room for God to do His thing. 

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. ~ Proverbs 3:5-6

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Chin up buttercup, RISE!

It’s never over…(sigh)

Just when I think I’ve got this, something unplanned comes along.

I don’t work out for 2 days which then turns into 2 more days.

I have one Parmesan bread bite, then I go back for just one more bite.

I might as well have one piece of pizza….and just one more.

Before I know it, I’ve had 2 pieces of pizza.🍕

It’s a vicious cycle & it can be so discouraging.

Those relentless voices start whispering and then screaming…’might as well give up,’ ‘it’s the weekend.’ ‘Might as well just start Monday.’ ‘It’s ok, just accept it.’ Blah, blah, blah!!! They’re LIES. I can’t buy into them.

I can’t keep beating myself up. I can’t change what I did yesterday, it’s gone. That fall can remind me, but I can’t allow it to define me.

We all have moments of weakness.

Sometimes our moments of weakness turn into days, weeks, and years of weakness.

It’s not the end of the world, y’all.

We all make mistakes and get off track. It’s inevitable. It’s life.

The mistake does not determine the type of person that I am or the quality of my character. What defines us is how well we RISE after we fall.

Chin up buttercup, turn that frown upside down & move forward. Today is a new day, make good use of it. #RISE

Smile! 😁

Wearing my best smile today in honor of ‘NATIONAL SMILE DAY!’ 😁 What make you smile?

I smile when something is funny or if something that I’m doing brings me joy. I smile at puppies and babies. I smile when my children laugh. I rock a mighty grin when I think of those that I love and beam the light of joy ✨ when spending time in the company of delightful people.

Smiles are powerful! They not only create engagement between two people but the more a person smiles, the healthier their brain can be. It is a direct link to our brain and can help to reduce stress.

Just one smile can brighten someone’s day and improve yours. Smiles are infectious. A smile can develop confidence and generate a new outlook on the world. A smile is the universal language of kindness.

Smile because life really isn’t that serious. You’re beautiful and amazing. Smile because you’re unique and you can. Smile because tomorrow is a new day and someone loves you. Because you deserve to…SMILE.

Every time you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing. ~ MOTHER TERESA

Give it a try, share a smile – today. 😃 ~ Monette

The RED dress! 💋

RED. I rarely wear it, I didn’t realize that until I needed to wear it for a special event and I had NOTHING that color in my closet. I had to buy something just for the occasion. I slipped into that dress this morning and immediately grew self conscious and uncomfortable. So uncomfortable that I considered wearing something more comfortable (preferably grey or black) for my first two appointments and changing for the ‘Go Red Luncheon.’ I’ve never really given it much thought, but this morning as I stepped out, begrudgingly – to put gasoline in my car…’it’ fanned me with a brick! The reason why…

RED – a dynamic & passionate color that symbolizes love, passion, rage, and courage. It demands attention and evokes great emotional impact. It is considered a color of power.

As an introvert, I SOooo prefer blending into my surroundings, but today – after I realized “why” I was feeling so uncomfortable…I made a conscious decision to own that power. I faked it till I made it, HA! I wore that RED dress with confidence and strength. Sista, there was something pretty AMAZING about being a part of a sea of other beautiful, strong, and courageous women wearing RED. There is POWER in RED.

And to the sweet Manager at McDonald’s in Kinder that complimented me on how stunning I was in that dress…I simply said “thank you” without minimizing her kind words. #growth

Is there a color that evokes deep emotions for you? Think about it…

Friends, I challenge you! ❤️ Wear RED! OWN “it” sista! Be bold – be courageous; step out and be the woman that God created you to be. #livepurposefully

~ xo

Monette

Savor the Holiday Season

Do the holidays stress you out? Do you OVER indulge and regret it? Not this year, my friend. I have a solution. You are invited to JOIN me and a special group of awesome women as we “Savor the Season!” Actually enjoy the holiday season this year. Thrive, don’t just survive. JOIN us as we use fitness, nutrition, personal development, & support to help us slow down and find JOY this holiday season.

Comment below or shoot me an email @ monetteunraveled@gmail.com for all the details.

We start prepping next Monday 11/20; officially starting Monday 11/27.

I am unfinished – press on!

Some days I just want to be finished. I’ve learned that I am not entirely in control of this journey of living well: body, soul & mind. I’ve learned that there is danger in becoming complacent in thinking that I am all better. I have not finished. He isn’t finished with me yet. I am ‘unfinished’ – not been made perfect (Christlike). I have been changed and I have grown tremendously, but I must be disciplined daily – press on…to continue to heal, grow and change.

Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already been made perfect, but I actively press on so that I may take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me and made me His own. ~ Philippians 3:12

Lord, you’ve brought me so far and have gained so much. But, I grow weary and complacent. I want to continue to grow and learn. Lord, help me to want to press on. Help me to do what I need to do today to move toward you. Take hold of me, Lord. Amen.